Sunday, February 12, 2012

Birthday Joy vs. Abortion Sorrow

Today is my oldest son's 21st birthday! What an amazing journey it's been watching him go from a tiny 5 lb. 15 oz. helpless little creature to a handsome, smart, funny, independent young man. To say I'm a Proud Mama doesn't even begin to describe how I feel about being his mother. Proud. Humbled. Joy-filled. Awed. The list could go on and on. Being "Mom" to the two most wonderful young men God ever created is one of the greatest blessings I will ever receive in this lifetime. Only my salvation through Jesus Christ and my marriage to my best friend top being a mother.

Because of how passionate I am about the lives I've been privileged to create within my own body, I simply cannot even begin to fathom how a woman could possibly choose abortion. I don't say that with any judgement or condemnation. I say that with true, inexplicable bewilderment. As women, we've been given the amazing ability to carry life inside our wombs. I will never, ever forget the day we heard Taylor's heartbeat for the first time. I was barely 6 weeks pregnant. It would be months before I felt him move, found out he was a he, and finally saw him in person. But none of that changed the fact that his tiny, microscopic, wonderfully formed heart was wildly beating. The very same heart that still beats within his chest today. It's bigger because he is bigger, but it's the same heart I heard on a monitor when he was the size of a sesame seed.

Yesterday I heard a current celebrity interviewed on the Rosie O'Donnell show. I won't give her name because I'm not writing this in judgement of her but rather to use it as an example of a mindset I simply cannot relate to. This celebrity admitted to Rosie that she had an abortion when she was 16 years old. She wanted to keep the baby, but her parents intervened. They told her having a baby now would "ruin her life" and that they certainly would not raise it. The teenage girl finally agreed and had an abortion. Today she says it was the "right choice" because she would not have been a good mother. Rosie finished the conversation by saying abortion isn't always "a life-defining negative thing."

Wow. I was...and still sort of am...speechless at those comments. Why? I'll tell you.

  •  This girl and her parents--the baby's own grandparents--decided the baby was a disposable object. An object. Not a life, but an object with no value of any kind. In fact, the presence of the object, still hidden inside the womb, was the worst thing they could possibly imagine. It would "ruin" this future star's oh-so-perfect life and future. Apparently none of them gave consideration to the baby's oh-so-perfect life and future. I don't know at what stage of pregnancy she had the abortion, but I can tell you for a fact that baby's heart was already beating. Blood was already being pumped throughout its tiny body. Body parts were forming, DNA was already in place. People try to make themselves feel better by calling it a fetus and saying it's not a baby. Seriously?? A beating heart means nothing to you???
  • This celebrity said she wouldn't have been a good mother. Sadly, I agree. She proved that by killing her baby. A good mother loves and protects her children. She'd give her own life in order to keep them safe. I remember each time I carried a life in my womb. I loved knowing my baby was safe while he was inside my body. The world and all its evils couldn't get to my baby. I remember cradling my belly, knowing no harm would come to the precious life inside me. A woman who choses abortion does the ultimate harm to her child. She kills it. Only a forgiving Father can remove the guilt-stain abortion leaves behind and make that woman a "good mother" to future children.
  • Rosie and this celebrity believe abortion is not a "life-defining negative thing." That comment simply blows me away. All I can say is, IT SHOULD BE! It should be a life-defining negative thing! How can it not be?! How can a woman--even a teenager--not be changed by having an abortion? My only guess is that they suffer from "me" syndrome. Everything is about Me. Me is most important. Me is all that matters. My happiness. My life. My wants. My desires. Me, me, me. That killing a life is not life-defining or negative tells me there is something very wrong in that person's mind and heart. 
Unwanted pregnancy is not something I've ever experienced. I desperately wanted both of my precious sons. I was ecstatic each time I found out I was pregnant. So I can't empathize with a woman who finds herself pregnant when she doesn't want to be. I feel for her though. I truly do. I can only imagine the fear and uncertainty. I've known teenagers who became pregnant and chose to keep the baby. It wasn't easy but it was right. I know many women who couldn't have children and were blessed to adopt babies who were given up by their mother's. I also know women who chose abortion and live with the guilt and regret. Terminating a baby doesn't make its existence disappear. It just makes it dead.

The abortion debate is not about a woman's choice. It's not even about how much power we give the government by allowing laws to dictate what a woman can and cannot do with her own body. It's about the tiny, microscopic person that can't speak for themselves yet. It's about life. And death. Pro-abortion folks say it should be up to the woman to decide if the baby lives or dies. Really??

"For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be." Psalm 139:13-16

God plans and creates each person. Never did He say it was our "choice."

I'm celebrating the life of my son today. I wonder how many children should be celebrating their birthday today but who were killed instead. I wonder how proud their mama's would be if only they'd made a different choice.

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Anita said...

I agree 100% with your viewpoint.
Every life has value. It isn't about "choice". It is about what is right and wrong. I was born to a teen-aged, unwed mother. In today's society I would be disposable.
Excellent post.

Michelle Shocklee said...

Thank you, Anita. And thanks for sharing. God bless you as you live out the life He planned from the moment you were conceived!
~Michelle Shocklee

Michelle Shocklee said...

2/21: As a note of interest: Last night at church I heard the testimony of a woman in her 50's whose mother made several attempts to abort her. Thankfully those attempts didn't work.

It is not a choice. It's a PERSON!